after several unexpected adventures i am not quite finished yet.
i. Nearing the one-year anniversary of relocating and while it's been fun and all I'm still looking to expand my library. I've given a looot of books away – most of which I've outgrown and have no value to me. But earlier this week I built a new bookshelf and I'm noticing a pattern with my new investments in photography and The Legend of Zelda lore. :x
ii. The subway commute's a lot less mundane when I create new playlists along the way. Certified bops I keep in rotation:
saggy denim - princess nokia
cigarettes - amir obè
hasta luego - j.i.d
wait a minute! - willow smith
holographic lover - st. beauty
x - kendrick, schoolboy q, 2 chainz, saudi
lost in nostalgia - xavier omär
silence - they.
cadillactica - big k.r.i.t.
iii. And as for my garden – oh man. Lol. Well, indoors I'm growing a very healthy aloe vera plant, two orchids that are currently on life support, and some vines that I keep very neat and wrapped around my lamp base. I'm still experimenting with that space but if anything's for sure, I want to make a container with water lilies to go along with my fish bowl. And I really can't wait to get started on that this weekend.
But yo ...
... since I broke the news a couple months ago I've been overwhelmed by the questions coming from people I don't even know asking for my advice. Was there anything I've done differently to get in? I don't think there's a definitive answer to that question. However, I can say that apart from my recommendation letters my statement of purpose may have been the most important factor in distinguishing my candidacy.
So for those of you who are going through applications for grad school, I'd like to offer you some advice on how to write a solid statement of purpose. ♡.
1. OPEN WITH A STRONG HOOK
Remember that you're going to be reviewed by actual people. They're probably going through the motions with other applicants, so you've got to make a connection with them that's written in human language.
My first paragraph involved a conflict and solution scenario based on a technical oversight that I had at work. I basically said, Hey – this crazy shit happened and this was how I resolved the issue using concepts: A,B, and C. But I took the risk of throwing a joke in there so I can only assume that at least somebody at the decision table must've been shook.
2. ADDRESS YOUR SHORTCOMINGS
My freshman year of college was messy. I was 16 and overwhelmed and I barely went to my Intro to Anthropology class. So I got a D.
I couldn't ignore this problem so I mentioned the difficulties I had balancing my social and academic life at the time. But I kept it brief.
If you think your credentials are going to be an issue, then emphasize on how you've changed. And you can do that by showing real, proven results of your road to success. Reference any notable improvements that you've made since and you should be good.
3. BE SPECIFIC AND CONCISE
When it comes to explaining why you think you'd be a good fit for your program of interest, you can't afford to beat around the bush. Don't be vague. And don't just put a string of adjectives together for the word count. Saying that you'd like to go to Starfleet Academy because it's an 'amazing school' with 'a lot of great opportunities' sounds uninspiring. And lazy.
Which courses offered in the curriculum interest you the most? How do you plan to apply yourself, if accepted? Are there any professors you care to work with? These are some questions you can address in your paper, and you can do so successfully by proving that you actually give a damn.
4. DON'T SOUND ARROGANT
If you only care to describe your list of accomplishments and how you think you're so smart and above it, then why the hell are you applying to grad school?
You ought to convey a willingness to learn. Let the admissions committee know that – yes, ok, you're not a dummy – but you still have room for growth and the program you wish to attend has the tools available for your advancement. Let them know how you intend to contribute to your field of study and that you are capable of completing the workload successfully.
5. WRITE SEVERAL DRAFTS
This should go without saying. Leave no grammatical errors in your statement of purpose. Proofread it, have someone look it over. And never, ever settle on your first draft. Keep editing. Keep writing. Do whatever it takes to make that thing look sharp.
♡. ASK FOR HELP!
Contact an advisor. Speak with someone who's been through it all. Get a feel for what you're getting yourself into. The resources available out there are plenty, so don't shy away from help.
+ Hnnn dassit. Hope that covered enough to be somewhat useful ye. ;]
I've been dragged to every festival since the move and lol ...
... it really is like living in a vacuum while the rest of the world burns.
A passerby came up to me to share her fries and I'm like ...
... I know you mean well but this never happens outside the bubble whoisyou. 💕.
A close-up of the tiddies I then wore to a picnic and biking ;}
There's a joke in there somewhere.
The spine in these strings mang ...
Which was surprising. Especially since:
- My knowledge of the New York Stock Exchange, finance, and global economics is rather limited.
- And my editorial process has always been primarily focused on our nation's politics, with some minor dabbling in world news.
- So I spent all of last week thinking: Why me?!
They took one look at us, made a quick call upstairs, and let us through the turnstiles no questions asked. The tower also had this really inconvenient system where the elevators weren't universal; they were assigned to specific floors: some odd and some even. It's not unheard of but it can be an inconvenience when you're not paying attention. So we did get lost on our way up.
A secretary then led us into an empty briefing room where my colleague and I were left alone until our scheduled appointment, and these guys were surprisingly on time. They were dressed rather casually, in jeans, and seemed no older than their respective late 30s and 40s.
Throughout our conversation I could already sense that their entire business model was a vanity project. It felt very spur of the moment — as if these guys had one day decided that they would coattail their fascination of developing a start-up company.
And there was one interesting exchange where I felt like I was being given an additional task, and that was to provide some purpose to their main objective.
We didn't get to cover most of what my boss had prepared for this meeting, so instead our Q&A revolved around my generation's perspective and how these execs could best appeal to millennials interested in investing in the world's capital market.
I felt like I was the one being interviewed.
And I went home exhausted about the number of times I've had the same conversations with men like that. Despite how self-involved they tend to be they always seem to look for some kind of validation from me and my demographic, as if my personal opinion offers some importance to their arbitrary investments.
They seem to have underlying emotions of discontentment and greed. It's sort of like the really insecure Nice Guy™ in its final and successful format — in that they don't view people as individuals but as a means to an end. They lack original thought, and they like to control situations that allow them to take advantage of others without consequence.
It's very predatory.
And with my future in mind I came out of this experience knowing that I'd never want that kind of life.
Took the day off to close a deal on my new apartment. But I forgot to eat.
And thereby upsetting every mother I know in the process.
I've got so much on my plate right now that I feel as though my future plans have been throttled.
But — good news? In a few weeks' time I'll be moving into my new place in the upper borough, twenty minutes away from work. So far I'm already in love with my new neighbors. And I've got more outdoor space I can't wait to remodel into a flower garden. There's no mistaking that I'll miss living by the coast and the surfing culture we've got here. But good God it's been a nightmare to commute.
Sidenote: Also taking a break from Instagram. It's been my secret trash bin for a while now and I miss paragraphs.